My friend married in December 2022 to a man she has known for her entire life, who is often referred to as almost a pastor. She applied to a school in the United States and traveled there while a few months pregnant.
The situation has become quite complex. This man had previously stated that he does not drink due to his born-again status; however, since his wife’s departure, he has begun to consume alcoh0l, which I find concerning.
Moreover, he has been unfaithful, engaging in relationships with multiple women. I feel immense sympathy for my friend, as I am aware of the challenges she faces while caring for their one-year-old child.
I am troubled by how to convey to her that her husband has expressed a preference for lighter-skinned women, while she has a darker complexion. Additionally, I am conflicted about informing her that he has told a friend that her body does not attract him.
Furthermore, I am concerned that he no longer participates in church activities as he once did. Ultimately, I struggle with the thought of revealing to her that the man she has always dated is not the person she believes him to be. The inability to share this information with her weighs heavily on me.