With over 24 years of experience as a college professor and public school educator, I understand the challenges of undertaking tasks for which one has not received proper instruction. This principle applies equally to mastering complex subjects such as mathematics and navigating the intricacies of marriage as a husband. Growth is unattainable without knowledge.
When my son reached the age of 13, he expressed a desire to understand what qualities made a man attractive and appealing to women. I explained that while I could not represent the views of all women, if he aspired to "outkick" his coverage and attract an exceptional partner, he should remember the acronym H.O.T. I emphasized that every H.O.T. man is captivating to his wife. details below...
1. He embodies humility.
Recently, I encountered a passage in the Bible, specifically James 4:6-8, which states, “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.” This discussion is not about feigned humility that seeks to downplay one’s achievements. An irresistible man is genuinely humble; he is open to learning. He acknowledges when he lacks knowledge and is unafraid to seek guidance from others. He demonstrates patience with his wife as he endeavors to understand her emotions and improve his expressions of love. Furthermore, he is eager to learn from experienced husbands about becoming a better partner.
When he falters in his marriage, he readily admits his errors; he is quick to apologize, extend forgiveness, and make reparations, prioritizing her needs above his own. His wife finds him irresistible because he does not let pride or ego create distance between them. He exhibits true strength by openly sharing his challenges with her rather than concealing them.
2. He demonstrates obedience.
This is not a term that many men readily accept, yet it is a quality that many wives find highly appealing. It reflects a man's capacity to honor authority, particularly divine authority. A wife understands that a husband who respects authority beyond the household is also one who will not misuse his authority within it. An obedient man is prepared to take initiative during challenging times, even when such actions may be unpopular. When faced with difficulties, he acknowledges his role in the situation, recognizing that as a leader, he bears responsibility, regardless of fault.
He does not shy away from his leadership role; instead, he embraces it with courage, thereby earning the admiration of his wife and children. He leads by setting an example rather than making excuses. How can a wife possibly resist a man who is both obedient in his love and leadership within the family?
3. He is reliable.
It is often said that a man is only as good as his word. If this holds true, then a reliable man who communicates truthfully and would rather lose the woman he loves than deceive her is undeniably attractive to women. Many women perceive trustworthy men as a rarity. To understand this, one need only consult any wife who has experienced lies, betrayal, or deceit from a man. I learned this lesson through the challenges of my first marriage, realizing that while trust can take years to establish, it can be shattered in an instant.
A reliable man does not conceal, withdraw, isolate, or keep secrets from his wife. To become irresistible to your wife, prioritize trustworthiness: opt for transparency over deceit, prioritize heartfelt honesty over sparing feelings, and choose sharing over secrecy. While humility, obedience, and reliability may not be the typical attributes women seek in "Mr. Right," these qualities often emerge as critical factors in discussions about what went wrong in marriages post-divorce.
Share your thoughts: What qualities do you believe are essential for being the husband that your wife finds irresistible?